Wednesday, October 30, 2013

The necessity of visiting Elmina Castle, Ivory Coast, Africa




Standing in the dark claustrophobic space, my heart breaks. African men died in this tiny room in the Castle Elmina on the Coast of Ghana.  Their struggle for freedom ended tragically. The idea of such brutality inflicted by one group against another overwhelms me.  

The Portuguese built Elmina Castle along the West African Coast in 1482. Sao Jorge da Mina (Saint George’s of the Mine) began as a trade settlement, specializing in gold and ivory.  Later, El Mina became an important stop in the Atlantic slave trade. The Dutch seized the castle in 1637 and continued the lucrative slave trade. During the 18th century, 30,000 men and woman walked through the Door of No Return each year. Many died on the passage. The Dutch ended this practice in 1814 and the Gold Coast was transferred to the British Empire in 1872. In 1952, the Gold Coast became independent and declared Elmina castle a historic world site under UNESCO.

For centuries, African tribes enslaved captives from war, often selling them to foreign slavers who treated them like bartered goods, only caring whether they lived or died by the financial gain or loss they would experience. The plaque next to the Door of Death reads, In Everlasting Memory of the Anguish of Our Ancestors. May those who died rest in peace. May those who return find their roots. May Humanity never again perpetrate such injustice against humanity. We, the living vow to uphold this. Against the walls are wreaths left behind by family members who come here to honor the dead and mourn their tragic loss. In forgetting, history will repeat itself and as fellow humans, we must stand up to injustice wherever and whenever we see it.

I walk down the long lightless corridor to the Door of No Return. Sunlight streams through the narrow opening at the end of the tunnel. I image proud African men and women pushed past the door, through the harbor and into the slave ships waiting to transport them on the Middle Passage to the Americas.

As a part of our medical mission trip, we toured Elmina Castle, a white washed three-story castle located at the end of a sandy point. Our first full day in Ghana was spent traveling four hours to visit the historical site. Some medical students from MUSC and College of Charleston undergraduates joined my children and me in this pilgrimage. We came together to offer health care to a poverty stricken area. Okurase was our final destination, but to understand the history of slavery in West Africa and its ties to the Charleston area, we visited this emotionally painful site.


The dungeons consisted of numerous cells, each of which housed up to two hundred people at a time. A ship would come by every two months. With the anticipation of its arrival, slaves were packed into the cells without room to lie down. Illnesses, especially malaria and yellow fever were a common occurrence. Hundreds of thousands of slaves shared these close quarters even before the appalling accommodations on the ships bound for the Americas.

The topic of slavery is not new to my children or me. Stories of planatations worked by slaves of West African descent are common here. For me, touring the castle makes the cruelty and brutality of slavery palpable. When asked, my fifteen-year-old daughter Annie says, “There is nothing as powerful as standing in a place you studied in school and feel the emotion welling up. You can’t get that in a book. It changes you.”

Near the birthplace of many of South Carolina slaves, in dank places where the walls still echo with anguish and grief, families were separated, never to be reunited. As I reflect on my time there, I am still uncomfortable with the sadness that remains in those stones. In the presence of my children, I am encouraged that a new generation will begin to feel the outrage and sadness. My hope is that each of us continues to fight injustice in our lifetime. Only by passing on these painful lessons will our world become a better place for us all.  


Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Solitude in the Face of Fear


    White mist hovers over the lake as the sun breaks through the morning horizon. Leaves, starting to appear on the limbs of the trees that hug the shore, give proof of spring. Soon my clear view of the blue water will be replaced by green. The temperature is cool with a hint of warmth that will arrive later in the day. The fresh mountain air begins to revive me as I sit on the deck with a cup of hot tea.
     I come to this cabin to escape my life. I am physically isolated and it symbolizes the bigger picture of being alone in the world. As an extravert, I don’t “ do alone” well, but I am determined to learn. My life has made a drastic turn and I am working hard to keep up. I fear this loneliness. I have conquered my past fears and I believe this one can be overcome as well.
     Years ago, a quote caught my eye Go towards your fears, for that is where you will grow. I grew up afraid of heights so at the age of 20, I parachuted out of a Cessna single engine plane. Another time, I dogsledded in Alaska to get over my aversion to cold weather. I spent two nights on the Yukon trail at 20 below. When my glass of wine became slushy, I knew that nothing would ever be that cold again.
     I decided to tackle this new situation in the same way, head-on. I rented a mountain cabin in Cashiers for a year. When my kids are with their father for a week a month, I seek peace in this isolated retreat. I force myself to spend days in seclusion. I knew I could find solitude, the joy of being alone. The unexpected gift is a profoundly deeper relationship with God. He shows up in amazing ways, just when I need him the most. I begin to read, meditate, and take long hikes with my dog Oscar. God speaks to me through the space that is often filled with busyness. His presence surrounds me and I begin to write. His thoughts inspire me and guide my fingers across the page. I began to see the blessings of my broken-heart. I open myself to Him and He honors my vulnerability.
    Studying Jesus’s life and how He often withdrew to be with His Father, I realize that retreat is vital to deepening a relationship with our Creator. It is challenging to find space, but absolutely necessary for growth. If Jesus needed frequent time with Our Father, then how much more do I need?  While being in the quiet, I receive clarity and the big picture is revealed. By Jesus’s example, I have found a way to connect and this knowledge encourages me.
     Running towards my fear was a success. Since those early weeks in the mountains, I’ve traveled to Europe on my own. Traveling with companions is still my first choice and I frequently make trips with my kids and friends, though I see the value of solitary travel where life is experienced in unique ways. And the bonus: God shows up every time.





                 






                    This Cabin on Lake Glenville, 
                       near Cashiers,  North Carolina
                             was my refuge for a year. 
                        A place to heal and a place filled 
                      with many memories 
                     that I will cherish always. 

             


Friday, May 3, 2013

Embracing the Beauty of Silence


What started as a pause in our conversation, extended into silence. The distance between us felt as far as our phones were apart. I counted the seconds from my friend’s last word. Every part of me wanted to jump into the empty space. As an extrovert, I felt uncomfortable with what seemed like an awkward silence. Usually, I would take this as either a cue to say something or bring the conversation to a close.  Practicing what I had learned in a three-day communication skills training class, I tried patience for a change. As it turned out, it was not an awkward silence. I gave him time to reflect and in turn say something meaningful to me. Had I spoken up, neither of us would have gained from this level of insight and intimacy.  A smile crept onto my face. I could not believe it. For the first time, I was learning the beauty of silence. After this experience, I began to listen better with my kids and anyone who came into my path, be it on the phone or in person; a dear friend or a new acquaintance.
            Silence is not only the absence of sound, but also the presence of an inner stillness if we are open to it. To truly listen, we must concentrate on what is being said and not on formulating a response. It is giving the other person total attention. It is quieting our mind.
In reflecting on the discovery of the importance of being quiet, I realized that I was filling the silence during my time with God. I often aimlessly chattered. From my lessons on listening, I saw that I was talking, not communicating; rambling, not connecting. God gave me many clues in the Bible and in my life, but I could not hear them over my own voice.
We can not hear God’s voice until we learn to be still. Psalms 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God”, tells us what it takes to know Him. His presence is always around, but in failing to develop the skill of blocking out the many distractions of our modern world and our incessant thoughts, we are unable to hear Him. Many times, instead of a great wind or a thundering crash, He comes in a whisper. He wants an intimate relationship where we are close enough to hear His soft voice. Then we can find bliss in having God in our still heart. Reading the Bible shows us examples. Grace gives us the patience to wait on Him and the strength to act when we hear. In obedience, we develop an assurance that allows us to step out in faith. With grace, patience, confidence and strength, we intuitively know when He speaks and can humbly listen.
God is inviting you to listen. Can you hear Him? I pray that you and I find stillness as we walk in His presence.


Saturday, April 6, 2013

Living into Easter


     I observed my daughter through the two-way mirror. This was her first day of kindergarten and I was curious to see how she would act. Had she learned the lessons I’d taught her; moving through the room, making new friends, gaining confidence? I watched her and was proud of her conduct. At that moment, a child approached her and attempted to take her toy. My daughter pushed back in defense and the child fell on her bottom. I shook my head with a smile, making a mental note of a future lesson on using words in confrontation. Knowing she wouldn’t behave perfectly, I gave her grace. After all, she was only five and this was her first test at life.
      At this point, the teacher called the group to gather in a circle. My daughter ended up holding the hand of the girl who tried to take her toy away. Maybe my daughter had learned more at my knee than I thought. My pride grew.
      Understanding that for her to move to the next grade, struggles would be necessary. I began to prepare myself for her future laughter and tears, assuring my precious daughter that I planned to walk with her through the triumphs and the challenges. 
     Seeing how much we love our children, we catch glimpses of the breadth and the depth of our Father’s love for us. Our heavenly Father watches us through that two-way mirror. What is He seeing? Are there lessons we need to learn? Is He proud of our attitudes towards other people? Is His love shining through us?
     In the past, Sacred Ground has focused on finding God’s presence in travel. Sacred ground can also be found in our interactions with others. Is God in the unique relationships that surround us and give us joy? When we feel frustration and anger come between us, is it to prompt us to dive deeper into God’s company?
     Our Father’s love for us is so incredible that He sent His beloved Son to rescue us and bring healing to our broken hearts. Jesus lived out a life of human frailty and temptation, showing us how to live with integrity and die with compassion. He bestowed on humanity two gifts. Not only did He give us wisdom for the ages, but new possibilities to communicate with God. At the moment of His death, the veil of the Holy of Holies ripped in two, signifying an opening in a relationship with our Holy Creator. We no longer need a human priest to approach our Father now that Jesus is our High Priest.
    Easter season is a wonderful time to discover a deeper relationship with God. He invites us to meet Him wherever we are. It is comforting that through Jesus’s sacrifice, there is no condemnation. We are forgiven as we repent and turn towards Him. We can all say ‘Come Lord Jesus Come’.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

Letting go of perfection


Letting go of perfection

     Photos lay on the table, stacked in piles, waiting to be put into an album.  Summer is ending and the photos remind me of the good times we experienced with family and friends.  Smiling faces gaze back at me against beautiful backdrops of mountain vistas and ocean beaches.  Life looks perfect in that split second of time and happiness seems to be a reality.
     Viewing life from a camera lens gives a false sense of what’s real. Memories, like photographs, tend only capture the perfect moments that are inevitably surrounded by harsh reality. In striving for this picturesque moment, we ask for excellence in everyone around us, especially ourselves. But surely the most memorable photographs are those never taken; since spontaneous, and often hilarious, sometimes tragic, moments are never captured on film. Our memories must be more inclusive than our photo albums, lest we miss out on the imperfections. And try as we might to forget, imperfections are not just a part of life; they are life.
     When life’s storms hit, we batten down the hatches.  We are in the moment of dealing with tragedy and forget to demand picture-perfect.  When the intensity lifts, we strive for the sunshine again.  We miss the point. There will always be some sort of drizzle that distracts from the overall perfection of the moment.  Running through a light rain, the water droplets touch my skin.  I began to feel my senses coming alive.  The smell of the damp earth, the sound of the droplets on the leaves by the side of the path, the salty taste of my perspiration on my lips and the view of the marsh through the graying light are vivid to me now.  Emotions are like my skin.  Running away from undesired feelings, I can avoid going out in the rain, but then I will overlook the rainbow.  I will miss being fully present.  
     Staring at the photo of my children and me in Clearwater, Florida, I close my eyes and picture the moments leading up to that shot.  I remember our laughter and an occasional harsh word between siblings.  I remember the imperfection of the experience.  Reminding myself that I am not a perfect mother, sister, daughter, neighbor or Christian, I embrace the flaws that make me who I am; the part of me that is willing to take chances, to change, to be creative, vulnerable, willing to make mistakes as I grow and evolve. These deficiencies also bring me to my knees before the grace of God.
    God doesn’t require perfection, but in our mad rush to please Him, we think that we have to be flawless to come before Him.  Jesus did that for us.  His blood cleansed us.  When approaching God, I imagine what it is like to have my own child snuggle up beside me.  Not asking for me to fix a problem in their life, but just to be with me and gather strength from our relationship so they can deal with the situation through new eyes.  I envision how pleasing this is to my Father; the fact that I want to stand in His presence for the pure joy of being with Him.  He loves all of me, even my faults.  I want to look through His rose colored glasses that sees me, His beautiful, imperfect, cherished, and beloved daughter.  
     I am letting go of my expectation for perfection.  Instead, I am choosing to walk in the rain.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Taking the Pulse of the Red Cross



red-cross
          When thinking of the Red Cross, what image comes to your mind?  Many of us have a Red Cross story or have heard an account from a loved one.  We hear stories from the Indian Ocean Tsunami of 2004 to Louisiana’s Hurricane Katrina, from the collapse of the Twin Towers to tornado disasters in the Midwest.  Story after story emerges from these tragedies where all seems lost and then the Red Cross arrives on the scene and hope is restored.  In moments of despair, volunteers appear responding to immediate disaster caused needs.  None of us want to be in a situation where we need the Red Cross, but we are not exempt from tragedy.  Knowing that help is close by can make the most traumatic experiences survivable.
     According to the Red Cross’s Fundamental Principles, “ the Red Cross, born of a desire to bring assistance without discrimination to the wounded on the battlefield, endeavors—in its international and national capacity—to prevent and alleviate human suffering wherever it may be found. Its purpose is to protect life and health and to ensure respect for the human being. It promotes mutual understanding, friendship, cooperation and lasting peace amongst all peoples.”  It is an organization that is truly colorblind.  The Red Cross does not receive funding from any government entity and it is represented in every country in 
the world.
    Not long ago, a tragic fire broke out in an apartment building in Goose Creek, SC.  Lives were taken.  Some of the residents lost everything they owned in the fire.  One of these women spoke at a Red Cross fundraiser.  She described the immense fear that ran through her as she relived those first moments with smoke billowing from the building and not knowing where her kids were.  This description of her and her children’s terror and confusion that led up to their ultimate escape, brought tears to the eyes of her listeners.   When her husband could see that recounting her story became too vivid and terrifying for her, he held her in his arms, renewing her strength to continue.  Periodically she paused to regain composure, each time apologizing for her emotional state.  Though she had practiced her speech without a tear, these memories now overwhelmed her.  Her despair was palpable as she spoke though she barely noticed the emotions of all those in attendance as she transported them to that terrible day.
     In expressing the rush of feelings that she felt when she first saw a Red Cross-volunteer, the audience’s continence changed with her.  As she continued, relief was evident on her face that was now filled with hope.  She told how the presence of the volunteers was the salve she needed to heal and regroup. All present realized that her story could easily be ours.  No one knows when tragedy may come.  Our local Red Cross has helped 1,222 of our neighbors in a 7 county radius since July 1st, 2011.  Keeping the Red Cross prepared for catastrophes with donations and volunteering is one way we can help it stay strong and ready for the unexpected.
     Recently, the Trident United Way has changed their priorities and consequently, the Red Cross lost valuable funding. This article is not meant to discuss the reasons behind this decision.  Instead, let us realize that in times of financial unease, where differences separate us more than our similarities bring us together, the Red Cross stands as a beacon of what we should all strive to be.  Its volunteers personify a humanity that crosses barriers and promotes true understanding.   Since the founding of the American Red Cross in 1881 by Clara Barton, hundreds of thousands of volunteers have impacted people in crisis.  Each of these volunteers has contributed to the success of this worthy organization.  Let’s continue the tradition by supporting our local Red Cross.  www.LowcountryRedCross.org or 843-764-2323

My Rocky Mountain High


     Snowflakes slowly fall from the sky. An accumulation has not yet begun, only a dusting of these flakes covers the scenery. It is late September and hiking alone at 10,000 feet in Rocky Mountain National Park, Colorado is exhilarating. There are other hikers walking this trail if trouble finds me so I relax in the solitude. The higher I hike, the more spectacular the view. The peaks in the distance rise dramatically as they point upward. A mountain lake nestles in an alpine meadow. Trees are changing into scraggly bushes as I approach the tree line elevation. The cold air enters my lungs as I greedily suck in more oxygen. The moderate breeze adds to the crisp fall weather and the sound it makes going through the trees is music to my ears. Layering my clothes allows me to stay warm in spite of the outside temperatures. The aspen leaves are letting go for the next season. Summer is gone, fall surrounds me and I am finally at peace.
      Peace, that elusive feeling that comes and goes at will. How can I attain a lasting peace? Paul states in Philippians 4:7- “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus”.


      Because I feel deeply that I am where I am suppose to be, I have peace no matter how upsetting the situation looks, I can rest knowing that life is going to play out in my favor. The end result may not be my first choice, but it will be God’s best choice for me. God says “I have plans for you, plans to prosper you”. He is faithful and trustworthy. Putting my trust in Him is crucial to experiencing the peace that passes all understanding. Thanking God for all circumstances, even the painful ones which are really blessings in disguise, allows Him to work miracles in my life. Gratitude opens me up to infinite possibilities. I am able to see the good in my life and embrace all that comes.                                
     Because of my history with God, I know that He can take charge of any situation and solve it to enhance his plan for me. He has to do the work, I can’t force it, but I do have to be a willing participant.
     Peace can only exist where there is an absence of worry and anxiety. Worry comes from the old English word meaning strangle. I can only experience true peace when I pass my worries over to the One who offers to take them from me. I am tempted to find that comfort in another human, but I know I will always be disappointed in the end. Only God can be that for me. When I accept whatever God puts in my path as necessary to my growth, I can feel peace. A calm serenity fills me and it is not lost when my outer world is strife-ridden. I don’t have to work hard to get what I need. The opposite is true. When I relax in the knowledge that God is going to bring what is necessary, life is no longer a struggle. ‘All in good time’ becomes reality and I can rest assured that God has my back, my best and my future. Everything feels right with my soul.
     When I cast my burdens on Him, my soul finds itself at one with its Creator. Deep inside me, I have a connection with God that becomes clogged. When the communion is blocked, I feel hollow. I often find myself feeding that emptiness with lots of activities and material goods that temporarily keep my mind busy, but it is fleeting. Only when I get myself right with God will the channel open and His peace will flow. His peace is like the bottom of the ocean where the storms of the surface have no impact. When I rise above the tempests of life through faith and trust, I can look upon the valley below, smiling, knowing God is with me. This serenity has to reside inside me for it won’t last if it is based on my environment. I encourage you to turn towards the One who can give you everlasting peace. It will make all the difference in your life and you will feel His presence no matter where you are. Shalom!


Author's note- pictures taken in a different time and place, but I wanted to show you the majesty of the Rocky Mountains!